Here are 10 Tips, and some Hints and Advice on saving your marriage, or making the break up as painless as possible should it prove to be inevitable.
1 – Don’t wait until it’s too late
When you become aware that your marriage is having problems, seek the help of a competent professional, as soon as you can. The detached advice of someone who can see the problems with a professional eye could make all the difference.
2 – Find a Counselor
If you are having problems, try to find a marriage counselor. Try to do your research if you can, and find out who is highly recommended.
3 – Ask your friends or neighbors
If you know people who have had marriage problems which are now getting better, ask them for a referral to the practitioner who is helping them.
4 – Try to understand the other person’s point of view
Don’t get stuck in trying to see everything from your own angle. Try to turn it round, and see what the other person is feeling.
5 – Make sure you do your homework
If you do see a marriage counselor, it is important to realise that what goes on in their office is only the start of the treatment. You need to take on board what is being said, and try to work it out at home.
6 – Try to see opinions as opinions
No two people ever agree on everything. It is all about respecting people’s differences, and working within them to achieve harmony.
7 – Don’t take it out on the children
Whatever you do, never use children as pawns in your games. Never use them to win arguments. They will be suffering enough from the marital problems without that.
8 – Give the marriage every chance
If you quit on the marriage early, without exploring every possible avenue to try and save it, you could easily end up riddled with guilt feelings. Don’t accept the end, until you know for sure that it is the end.
9 – If you have to part, try to do it amicably
Divorces happen. They are a fact of life. If the marriage has to happen, try not to get caught up in negative feelings which can only impair your life in the future. At least try to respect the other person as a human being, even if the differences are irreconcilable.
10 – If the marriage has to end, do the best you can for your children
If you have tried every possibility to save the marriage, and it simply is not going to work, think of the people you brought into the world. You have a sacred moral duty to your children to provide and care for them whether you split up or not. Make sure your children always come first.
With these tips, you have every chance of saving your marriage, and working out a solution. Let the advice given here spur you on to seek the help you need to solve the problems of the most important relationship of your life.
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